I would not commit so she left. That was exactly how I felt. I know she was hurt by my inability to commit. There is hope. It is possible to overcome commitmentphobia. First, you must identify the fear. Once you have identified the fear, you can begin to overcome it. You can also overcome your fear of commitment through healthy relationships. Here’s how:
First, if you’ve decided to get serious about a person, it’s time to stop worrying about compatibility. Commitment means taking risks. If you’re afraid of commitment, you need to talk about it with your partner and try something new. It takes courage and determination to face your doubts, fears, and break down walls. Don’t wait for the right person. Follow your heart.
Second, stop comparing your commitment to trading cards. This will only make your partner feel dissatisfied. You chose this relationship because you believed that no one else would be better than you. It’s not a gamble. Remember that you chose her. Whether or not she’s the perfect person for you, it’s worth it. So, be sure to show your maturity by showing your respect for her feelings.
Third, be a true commitment. Commitment should feel natural and not forced. You should both feel empowered and respected. Both of you should share the same goals. You should also be able to talk about your goals and aspirations. The more you share in common, the more likely you’ll grow together. Once you’ve done that, it’ll be easier to commit to the relationship.